- 11 Apr 18
The MeToo movement has highlighted the shockingly high incidence of rape and sexual assault in everyday life, across the world. But that is only the tip of the iceberg. At every turn, whether on a night out, or in the media, women are routinely treated as pieces of meat – and worse. Now the time has come to fight our fears of slut-shaming, embarrassment and social pressures and say – enough! By Laura Whitmore
I’ve wanted to write this for a while but I’ve been scared. I feel ashamed to say I was scared but I was. I still am. Scared of what people might say, drawing attention to things that upset me, adding fuel to the fire. Still. I need to write this. What exactly ‘this is’, I don’t know precisely, but I’ll try to elaborate.
Last year I was in a club with my friends and I could feel a hand on the back of my leg. Initially I thought it was my boyfriend messing or a mate about to pinch my bottom – but the hand went under my skirt, between my legs, and firmly touched me. As I turned, I saw it was a guy who I did not know. He was laughing.
I pushed him away and told him to get his ‘fucking hands off me’. It was dark and I was shocked by what had just happened. I couldn’t recognise his face under the strobing lights and, then, he was gone. I was a bit tipsy and I was wearing a short skirt. Did I deserve that to happen? I told the manager but what could I do? What was the point?