- Sex & Drugs
- 10 Nov 16
It might sound complicated – but I was very impressed indeed with Laura when she gave such a wonderfully precise definition of her sexual identity. Which got me thinking: what about all of those other interesting shades of sexual orientation? Well, it turns out that there is a word for most all of them!
There I was in the pub, not minding my own business. Nope, instead I’d fallen into conversation with three strangers. One, a young woman in her first year at UCD and an avid reader of this fine publication, recognised me and the talk turned, as it often does, to sex and sexuality.
Laura described herself as a hetero-romantic bisexual, to which I had two reactions. The first was “snap” because that’s how I identify too; the other was the wish that I’d been that clued up in my early twenties – hell, my late twenties even!
At various points in my life I have described myself as either straight or bi. This wasn’t an example of sexual fluidity – merely confusion. I didn’t have the vocabulary to define exactly what my sexual orientation was. Eventually, I decided to throw my lot in with Team Straight. This seemed easier and, let’s be honest, it’s generally been a whole lot more socially acceptable. But more importantly, the vast majority of my relationships had been with men, and I knew that if I was going to get into anything committed, it was almost certainly going to be with a man. That’s what hetero-romantic means.