Sex Column: Women Enjoy Porn

And there’s nothing wrong with that! Indeed, while sexual conservatives try to claim otherwise, the reality is that men and women are really very similar in their appetites for sex, porn and all the rest...

It’s February, and the most anticipated cultural event of the month is the much discussed film adaptation of Fifty Shades of Grey. By the time you read this, we will know whether or not the film is the clusterfuck the press around it suggests it is going to be. Reports have told of knock-down drag-out onset fights between the director Sam Taylor-Johnson and writer EL James, and that co-stars Jamie Dornan and Dakota Johnson can barely stand one another.

Be that as it may, film adaptations of the sequels have already been confirmed, probably because a

book that sold over 100 million copies is bound (no pun intended) to find a cinema audience — and if that audience buys tickets out of curiosity, to see what all the fuss is about, or even just to hate-watch the film, well, that doesn’t matter as nobody is expecting Fifty Shades to be a subtly drawn exploration of BDSM erotica.

Whether or not the novel is badly written (it is) or features a relationship that is more abusive than kinky (it does), there is no denying that Fifty Shades of Grey was a cultural watershed moment, and one that introduced us to the term “mommy porn”. The fact that the qualifier “mommy” was applied is in itself telling — the typical Fifty Shades reader was believed to be a married woman over the age of 30, and therefore not the usual audience for adult material.

We have a blindspot when it comes to women and porn consumption, believing that curiosity or interest in other people fucking is the preserve of men. The truth is women have always had socially acceptable outlets for their sexual desires, and erotic fiction has long been one of them.

While the mainstream popularity of Fifty Shades of Grey was surprising, the fact that millions of women enjoy erotic fiction wouldn’t be news to anyone in publishing. It’s been an open secret for years. Over a hundred different Mills & Boon novels are released each month under different imprints, such as “Blaze” which features lots of sex; “Desire” which has plenty of sex and some drama; and “Spice” which is home to novels featuring both casual sex and BDSM play. Sure these novels are nominally romances — as is Fifty Shades — but the numerous explicit sex scenes would not be a feature if readers didn’t see them as an integral part of the attraction.

The popularity of erotic fiction for women dovetails with the idea that women are less interested in porn because we are supposedly less visually driven than men. Before online porn, men had spank mags; women had books. But since nobody made porn mags for women — other than soft core and frankly boring Playgirl type stuff — there is no way of knowing if there would have been a market for something more interesting and exciting than naked men coyly hiding their cocks.

If one thing suggests that women’s sexual desires are at least partly visually driven, it’s pop music. From the bobby soxers in the 1940s, Beatlemania in the 1960s, Take That obsessives threatening suicide when the band split in 1996, or today’s Beliebers and Directioners, the music industry has long known that there was plenty of money to be made from teenage girl fans. In her book, Unrequited: Women and Romantic Obsession, journalist Lisa A. Phillips notes that celebrity crushes give young girls a safe space to explore their sexuality, because however compelling the fantasy there is no pressure involved, nor any obligation to the object of desire. Boyband members are revered because they are sexual fantasy objects as much as singers or musicians, sometimes more so.

As a general rule, our culture believes that women are less interested in sex than men, and are more motivated by romance than physical desire, despite all the evidence to the contrary.

The popularity of erotic fiction, boybands, matinée idols and sexy male stars from Rudolph Valentino to Chris Hemsworth makes it obvious that women and their desires have always been a significant driver of popular culture. Because books, films and bands are popular mainstream cultural products they have always been seen as acceptable, even if some of them are regarded as “lowbrow”, in a way that porn has not been. “Good girls” could sigh over James Dean in 1955 more openly than we can over James Dean today.

What percentage of women watch porn? Unfortunately it is impossible to get accurate figures, because even on anonymous surveys people lie about their sexual behaviour and fudge details so that their answers align with perceived masculine or feminine ideals – but all indications are that plenty of women do.

A survey conducted for the RTÉ documentary We Need to Talk about Porn, found that 56 percent of Irish women have watched porn; Ann Summers asked their female customers about their porn viewing habits and found that 57 percent of women aged 18 to 24 reported enjoying porn when alone; and viewer statistics from PornHub found that women users of the site were significantly more likely than men to search for lesbian sex, solo male sex, and threesome or group sex.

However it may also be true that fewer women than men watch porn regularly — or at least are willing to say so. A 2013 study by the Pew Research Center into American online habits found that only eight percent of women admit to watching porn, but those figures need to be read with a large dollop of scepticism — the same survey found that only twelve percent of American adults overall, including a quarter of men, watch online porn. Yeah, right! The study, while anonymous, was conducted over the phone and as Pew themselves admit, the low figures “may reflect a reluctance to report the behavior among some adults.”

Whether or not women are less likely to watch porn, or less likely to tell a stranger over the phone that they do, is impossible to say. It is probably a bit of both, since the vast majority of mainstream porn is made by men for male viewers. In the last few years however, “female- friendly” porn has been on the rise, but interestingly enough, those are not necessarily the films that women enjoy.

Of course there are filmmakers who do make interesting and compelling porn for women — Erika Lust comes to mind — but a great deal of “porn for women” reflects what porn makers think women want: soft focus, narrative driven erotica featuring attractive white women getting it on with strapping muscle- bound men in exotic locations. Other supposedly female-friendly titles take their cues from porn made for men, and don’t pay enough attention to female pleasure. The truth is a lot of so-called female-friendly porn is a bit “meh” – so it is unsurprising that many women aren’t that keen on it.

There is a bit of a chicken and egg conundrum here — is there less porn for women because there is less of an audience for it; or is there less of an audience because there are fewer options? I imagine it is the latter. The PornHub figures suggest that women are getting around this lack of good options by seeking out mainstream porn that appeals to them. Lesbian porn, whether made for heterosexual men or gay women, is far more likely to include sex acts women find pleasurable. The PornHub figures show that the top three sex acts female viewers search for are “eating pussy”; “pussy licking”; and “tribbing”.

Why is there a reluctance to admit that women, even married women over the age of thirty, sometimes want to watch people fuck? I suspect that because to do so we would have to give up some of our cherished notions about men, women and sexuality — particularly the idea that men and women are completely different kinds of being and that our sexual drives and motivations are completely different too. Accepting that women like sex, and porn, often in the same ways that men do, means acknowledging that we’re not that different — and few things terrify conservatives of all stripes more than the idea that men and women are basically the same.

Fifty Shades of Grey may not be a feminist fantasy, but the hot, rich, domineering alpha male is obviously a popular female one; and while I may not have enjoyed the book and I doubt I’d enjoy the film, despite the gorgeous Jamie Dornan, I am glad that the film has opened up a space to talk about women’s sexual fantasies and our relationship with porn. It shouldn’t be a dirty secret... unless dirty secrets are what turn you on!

 

Related Articles

Sex Column: Crossing cultural boundaries with sex

How often have you strayed from your own close cultural type, in a sexual encounter or in forming a relationship? Or might you be even more turned on by the thought of crossing cultural boundaries in pursuit of the best possible sex? And to what extent are our sexual desires a matter of conditioning that we can – and possibly should – change?

Read More

Sex Column: Is monogamy the only option for couples?

A fascinating new book suggests it’s at least worth questioning standard sexual mores...

Read More

Lisa Harding talks about her depictions of sex-trafficking in her new novel Harvesting

Lisa Harding’s new novel, Harvesting, is a powerful tale about the current sex-trafficking crisis in Europe.

Read More

Sex Column: I’m Coming, I’m Coming!

No, we are not talking about that moment when you are late for a dinner appointment and your partner is shouting at you to get a move on. Rather, it is that special occasion when the impact of an orgasm kicks in, so that the inevitable must happen – and does. So how do you think you’d look, if there was a close-up on your face, in a porn movie?

Read More

Live Report: RIOT at Vicar St

RIOT, at Vicar St. is a hugely engaging smorgasbord of artistic delights, with Emmet Kirwan and Panti Bliss to the fore.

Read More

Let's Talk About Sex - Ireland's long, unfinished journey from sexual conservatism to liberalism

40 years ago, like a European Afghanistan, Ireland was hopelessly conservative in relation to sex and sexuality. However, the local equivalent of the Taliban have gradually been ousted – and this country has become a far more open, liberal, inclusive and tolerant place. That there is no room for complacency goes without saying…

Read More

Sex Column: Playing the Whore

It's one of the commonest insults in the English language- and it's usually directed at women. The truth, of course, is that there is nothing wrong with earning money for providing sexual services...

Read More

What Sort Of Monster Would Pretend To Use A Condom and Let It Slip Off?

…Or puncture it? They are out there, you know: men and women who are hell bent on hoodwinking others into unprotected sex. Their aims may be different – but it is rape either way…

Read More

Sex Column: What Happens When A Man Comes?

Or should that be cums? Well, either way, it is a fascinating question – all the more so given that without it, well you, for one, wouldn’t be here. So get ready to take notes, girls and boys…

Read More

Book Review: Skintown by Ciaran McMenamin

Ciarán McMenamin’s debut novel Skintown is a hypnotic, alcohol soaked, adrenaline-fuelled rush of a book

Read More

Sleeping With The Enemy

Would you put up with a racist or a xenophobe if he – or she – happened to be good in the sack? And how important is it to love that we share the same ideological inclinations?

Read More

In Sex Does One Size Fit All?

For example, there’s a theory that the way to a woman’s heart is through straightforward kissing, cunnilingus and fingering. Well, what do you think, eh?

Read More

Book Review: Colm Tóibín, House of Names

Read More

Bright Lights, Big Orgasm - This Fortnight's Sex Column

For a long time, our correspondent has been seeing things when she has an orgasm. When she investigated what was going on, she was in for a surprise…

Read More

Is Hate The Best Way To Love (And Have Sex?)

It may seem perverse, but people often bond over how much they dislike something – or someone. In fact, if you play your cards well enough, hating the same things may be the best way of ending up in bed with someone you fancy.

Read More

How Many People Have You F*cked?

In a nice way, that is! A UK research project found that both men and women are suspicious of sexually successful (some might say promiscuous) people. So, with it being Valentine’s Day, we have to ask: how come they keep getting laid?

Read More

US Muslims living in Trump's America - An Interview with Twitter Queen Hend Amry

She is a US citizen. But, if Donald Trump has his way, her name will go into a new kind of black book: the so-called Muslim Register. Hend Amry has been commenting on the shift to right-wing populism in the US and elsewhere via Twitter, under the @libyaliberty handle, earning an impressively large following in the process…

Read More

Apollo House Occupiers: We Need to Be at The Forefront of the Fight Against Homelessness

A musician by trade, Quentin Sheridan was homeless – and so he put out a call on Facebook. The occupation of Apollo House by Home Sweet Home is the result. But it is only the start of a battle, in which Ireland can provide the lead

Read More

“Simon Coveney, come down and talk with us,” says Glen Hansard

The singer has issued an invitation to the Minister for Housing to visit Apollo House, in Dublin, which has been occupied by campaigners who aim to bring an end to homelessness.

Read More

Sex column: Men should be able to control their fertility

With the exception of condoms, the responsibility for avoiding pregnancy has generally fallen on women. But men are entitled to control their own fertility too. The question is: how?

Read More

Life During Wartime: An Interview with Helena Mulkerns

Helena Mulkerns’ new short story collection draws on her extraordinary experiences as an aid worker, which brought her to the heart of conflict zones in Eritrea and Afghanistan.

Read More

Book Review: Conor Brady, A Hunt in Winter

Read More

Sex News: My Night with a Female Hetero Romantic Bisexual

It might sound complicated – but I was very impressed indeed with Laura when she gave such a wonderfully precise definition of her sexual identity. Which got me thinking: what about all of those other interesting shades of sexual orientation? Well, it turns out that there is a word for most all of them!

Read More

Cannabis Makes Sex Better

Cannabis lube, that is. And, based on our sex columnist's personal experiments, it heightens sexual pleasure only for women. Sadly, you won’t get it over the counter in Ireland – though that might change in the future. We hope…

Read More

When An Interest In Sex Was Considered A Form of Madness

In terms of our understanding of the human mind, it is important to remember that we are only ever getting there. Not so long ago, after all, a woman who enjoyed sex was likely to be branded as a nymphomaniac.

Read More

In Goth We Trust

Irish author Conor O’Callaghan’s debut novel, the gothic mystery story Nothing On Earth, is one of the most gripping books of the year.

Read More

Book Review: Margaret Atwood, Hag-Seed:The Tempest Retold

Read More

Repeal The 8th & The Struggle Of Irish Women

Since the introduction of the 8th Amendment to the Constitution in 1983, women in Ireland have had to live with a shockingly restrictive regime on abortion, which has resulted in numerous deaths and untold trauma. Now, the Irish public is saying: no more…

Read More

Book Review: Mary Gaitskill The Mare

Read More

Men Are Sex Objects Too - Anne Sexton talks double standards and the female gaze

The myth that only men treat the opposite sex as objects, is just that - a myth. The sooner women are more honest about their lustful feelings, and the sooner society stops treating sexually open women as sluts the better it will be for all of us.

Read More

Book Review: Laura Kasischke Minds Of Winter

Laura Kasischke, the critically acclaimed and nationally bestselling poet and author returns with a tense psychological thriller

Read More

An Interview With Miranda Sawyer: Neither Out of Touch Nor Out Of Time

Journalist Miranda Sawyer’s compelling and humorous new book, Out Of Time, explores the challenges of turning forty and maintaining a rock and roll edge.

Read More

Book Review: Liz Nugent, Lying In Wait

Liz Nugent’s Lying in Wait comes with praise from Sebastian Barry and Marian Keyes, among others.

Read More

Meet UnderCurrent, a Cabaret Like No Other

UnderCurrent are a group unlike any other in Ireland. A mix of cabaret, musical theatre, burlesque, physical comedy, banter and dance, they are also the only performance troupe in the country composed entirely of LGBTQ members.

Read More

Hats Off To The Stone Roses

The progenitors of Britpop came to Marlay Park in Dublin yesterday – and the crowd lapped it up. Report: Anne Sexton

Read More

Book Review: Conor O'Callaghan, Nothing on Earth

Anne Sexton gives her take on Conor O'Callaghan's debut novel.

Read More

The Shoos talk to Anne Sexton about their comeback

This four-piece cut their teeth busking in Temple Bar, but their journey is just beginning.

Read More

Front Lines: Senior Citizens Make Abortion Pill Stand In NI

With women being given jail sentences for using the abortion pill in Northern Ireland, three activists decided that it was time to act – and made a startling confession to the PSNI.

Read More

Anne Sexton explores modern dating rituals and our First Dates obsession

First Dates offered a glimpse into the way people behave when they are looking for a romantic liaison - and maybe some sex into the bargain. But how different was the TV version from people's pursuit of a good time - and what does the history of dating tell us about how we view this ritual?

Read More

Book Review:Shrill Notes From A Loud Woman

Read More

Sex: Are You The Sexiest Version Of Yourself?

Read More

Book Review: Shylock is my name

Read More

A new beginning

Teenager David Beattie has written a powerful and insightful account of growing up trans in Ireland.

Read More

Tinder: Is there an orgy of hot sex waiting for you?

The ‘dating’ app makes great claims in relation to the numbers using it. But are people hooking up and having sex successfully through it? Now, that is a very good question…

Read More

Book Review: In the Wake of The Rising

Read More

Sexed Up: The Fuckzone is where bullies thrive.

Make no mistake, casual sex can be brilliant, wonderful, even life-affirming. But in the fuckzone, things are different. Because this is where a woman is just a piece of pussy or a man is no better than a dick or an asshole on legs...

Read More

Book Review: A Slanting Of The Sun Donal Ryan

Since the release of his acclaimed first novel, The Spinning Heart, Ryan has established himself as one of Ireland’s most talented writers.

Read More

Sex Column: Sex Equalled Shame

Eighties Ireland: in a country where divorce was impossible, unmarried mothers were treated like pariahs, gay sex was illegal and condoms could only be bought on prescription, finding the joy in sex was not easy. But the excitement of it was no less real.

Read More

Glenn Patterson Interview

Glenn Patterson’s latest novel tells the extraordinary story of John DeLorean’s time in Belfast – a saga of federal agents, undercover sting operations and alleged cocaine trafficking.

Read More

Sex Column: Ask every candidate will they repeal the 8th

The introduction of the 8th Amendment to the Constitution in 1983 was one of the most regressive pieces of manipulative political chicanery in the history of the Irish state. Repealing it is essential to establishing a regime in Ireland, which respects the reproductive rights of women. Let’s end the evasiveness by making it an election issue…

Read More

Book Review: Love Rewired By David Kavanagh

Read More

Book Review: The Noise of Time by Julian Barnes

Read More

Paddy Hayes - Queen Of Spies

Read More

On The Abortion Pill Bus

It may be highly illegal, but Irish women - including TD Ruth Coppinger - are willing to risk jail by taking the abortion pill all over Ireland. Anne Sexton and Julia Schimkus travelled to Galway with the pro-choice activists...

Read More

Queen Of Ireland

Life is a drag for Miss Panti - but wonderfully so!

Read More

Hanya Yanagihara Interview

Anne Sexton chats to Hanya Yanagihara, whose second novel A Little Life has been the subject of truly rapturous reviews...

Read More

Undermajordomo Minor - Patrick DeWitt

Read More

Beneath The Earth - John Boyne

Read More

Who Said Foreplay Was Just For Girls?

Men have been lectured for a long time about how ladies need a bit of foreplay before getting it on. But that is an axiom that rubs both ways – because men tend to like a long, slow build-up too...

Read More

Sex Column: Who Said Foreplay Was Just For Girls?

Men have been lectured for a long time about how ladies need a bit of foreplay before getting it on. But that is an axiom that rubs both ways – because men tend to like a long, slow build-up too...

Read More

Sex Column: Why Didn't She Leave Him?

...Or, in a different situation, you might ask, why didn’t he leave her? Abusive relationships are unfortunately common – and both sexes are victims. But perhaps you have to have lived through one to really understand the cruel dynamics at work...

Read More

Glenn Patterson - Interview

Acclaimed author Glenn Patterson continues his exploration of the Northern Irish psyche in his latest book, which cherry-picks his finest non-fiction pieces from the last decade.

Read More

Sex Column: Pick-Up Artists Are Wankers

The crass outlook of pick-up artists is insulting and fails to recognise each individual's unique attractiveness

Read More

Sex Column: If You've Got Something Unusual Hiding In Your Pants, Let Me Know...

There are no rules as to how much you reveal to prospective sexual partners. But it is probably true that – most of the time anyway – honesty is the best policy...

Read More

David Norris Interview

Before the gay marriage ‘Yes’ vote had people dancing in the streets, before civil partnerships, before gay people could publicly identify as such, Senator David Norris was waging a brave and often thankless fight on behalf of minorities in Ireland. In his first major interview since the referendum he recounts his long struggle with prejudice in Ireland...

Read More

Interview with Tender Author Belinda McKeon

With her second novel Tender dealing with homosexuality, emotional abuse and mental illness, Belinda McKeon reflects on the repressive, oppressive culture of mid '90s Ireland and the perverse pleasure she takes in pushing readers' buttons.

Read More

Sex Column: Sex On The Beach

It may be the name of a cocktail, but it is also a reasonably popular pastime. So is public sex a good idea? And how are you best to go about it?

Read More

Grey - EL James

Read More

Sex Column: Why Sex Is Evil...

Every now and then, they come out of the woodwork: people who believe that thinking, talking and writing about sex in a positive way is a sin and should be punished. It is a bit scary when someone like this tracks down your email address just to tell you...

Read More

Joy Unconfined - Marriage Equalitiy

As the results came in, crowds gathered in Dublin Castle to hear them. It became on of he biggest and best parties Ireland has ever seen...

Read More

Anne Enright - The Green Road

The novel is about an Irish family and all their problems in life from 1980 on and written in episodic style.

Read More

Sex Column: The Right To Love In Broad Daylight

It is vital to gay couples that the upcoming referendum on same sex marriage should be passed. But an even bigger prize is the feeling that we are living in an open, inclusive society that a resounding victory would inspire. So, make sure to get out and vote ‘Yes’...

Read More

Sex Column: Why I'd Like To Be A Man

When it comes to sex, men have it far easier and far better than women. In fact, there are ten good reasons why a sex change might just be the best option...

Read More

Sex Column: We Need More Sex, Not Less

A lot of concern has been expressed in conventional media about ‘hook-up’ culture. Curiously, however, the impact of social media and online mate-seeking sites seems to be that people are having less sex rather than more. Something will have to be done about it, is all we can say...

Read More

Sex Column: You Lick Mine And I'll Suck Yours!

It is an invitation that most people would find extremely difficult to turn down. But there are those who prefer giving head one at a time to the classic 69. Which side of the great oral sex debate are you on?

Read More

Sex Column: 9 Things I Learned About Sex

When Hot Press ran a competition for a columnist to write about sex, the competition was pretty hot. In the end, we chose a certain feisty, red-headed female, who wrote with wit, verve and style – and whose name just happened to have the word ‘sex’ in it. Clearly it was a role that she had been destined to, um, perform...

Read More

Sex Column: Give And You Shall Receive Sex...

That was the implied message in Teleflora’s 2012 Valentine’s Day ad, which featured the model Adriana Lima. Is that really what romance is all about?

Read More

Sex Column: 2015 Will Be The Year Of BDSM

That’s bondage, discipline, sadism and masochism to you and me. Oh, and there will also be copious face- sitting; lots of gay sex – some of it within marriage hopefully; and vibrators that know what you like. Bring it on!

Read More

Inside Ireland's BDSM Scene

During the Graham Dwyer murder trial, members of the Irish BDSM scene were sometimes depicted in unflattering terms. So what is BDSM all about?

Read More

Hot Press examines the Housing Crisis

Cowboy landlords, substandard living conditions and ever increasing costs are just some of the problems facing people in rented accommodation, and many of those in difficulty are afraid to speak up.

Read More

Sex Column: Sex Is In The Air

But not always in a good way! Because someone out there apparently thinks that sex toys specially designed and packaged for Christmas are, like, a good idea! Starting with the Barack Obama dildo…

Read More

Sex Column: I Rather Like My Friend's Husband, So...

It’s a tough one. The man you want just happens to be hooked up — with your best friend. If you really want him, there’s only one way to go about it. But should you dare?...

Read More

Seek And Ye Shall Find - Get Working Special

As Ireland emerges from a period of economic turbulence, there are now a myriad of ways to get a foothold in the jobs market.

Read More

WHY IS NOBODY INTERESTED IN SHAGGING ME?

That’s a question that more or less everyone has had to ask themselves at some time in their lives. Because, modern mating methods notwithstanding, getting regular sex is still a minefield for a lot of people to negotiate…

Read More

Sex Column: Warnings About Rape Are All Very Well, But…

It doesn’t make sense to start blaming social media for what is a horrible crime. Because the truth is that women are entitled to go about their lives free of the fear of rape…

Read More

Mental Health Special - Mind, Body, Spirit

It may be a cliché but there is a lot of truth to the notion of “a healthy body, healthy mind.” As Bressie notes in his emotional fitness tips, the food you eat affects your mood, and physical activity promotes the creation of serotonin, a neurotransmitter that makes you feel good.

Read More

Front Lines: Volunteer Force

Time spent overseas volunteering shouldn’t be treated as a holiday and is only worthwhile if you are prepared to put in some hard graft...

Read More

Sex Column: Sex is good for you

That, as they say, is a bold statement. But new research has indicated that the association that has often been made between casual sex and lower self-esteem is really a product of prevailing religious-based orthodoxies. Having sex will not cure depression. But as an aspect of a holistic approach to our well-being, it can play a vital role…

Read More

Blackboard Jungle - Tana French Interview

She has chronicled the seamy side of Dublin in her novels. Now crime writer Tana French turns her attention to the privileged elite of south Dublin

Read More

Sex Column: Should I Make A Sex Tape?

Everyone else seems to be! However, the recent celebrity Hackergate scandal throws up a multitude of intriguing questions about the wisdom of recording DIY porn...

Read More

LET’S TEACH ABOUT SEX

We all know how enjoyable a bit of role-playing is – especially when it comes to sexual matters. So get down on your knees: our resident sexpert Anne Sexton is about to give you a lecture…

Read More

So who is best at sex, then?

Is it the Yanks with their enthusiasm; the Aussies with their frankness; or the Germans with their, umm, precision? And how do Irish men compare with their international peers? Anne Sexton road-tested males of eight different nationalities (not in the last fortnight, you understand) and is delighted to offer her educated view on the subject...

Read More

AFTER I LOST MY VIRGINITY, THE SECOND PERSON I TOLD WAS MY MOTHER… - Sex Column

It makes a huge difference to your sexual development – and ultimately to your sexual happiness – if you can talk about things openly with your mother...

Read More

COCK RINGS CAN BE A GIRL’S BEST FRIEND

They have a long and distinguished history, and nowadays come in all shapes, sizes and colours – but the basic latex cock ring beats the rest hands down, where making sex better for women and men alike is concerned.

Read More

Sex Column: You Want Sex? Just Say Yes

A debate is currently raging about the idea of ‘Enthusiastic Consent’. That’s when you say ‘yes, please’ to having sex with someone else. But should that be required under the law? It is, as they say, an interesting one...

Read More
 

Advertise With Us


For information including benefits, key facts, figures and rates for advertising with Hot Press, click below

Advertise

Find us elsewhere